“Why are you so shy and quiet?”… Shut up.


If I got a penny for every time someone said this to me, well, I would have a Lamborghini by now. Like… what makes people think this is a question I want to answer? In fact, how am I even supposed to answer that? Do you think I’ll suddenly be screaming at the top of my lungs now that you’ve mentioned I’m so quiet???

I am quiet. Yes. I am a listener, I enjoy listening to others talk. I also enjoy talking, but just not with everyone. There’s a select group of people I will be loud and outgoing with, but that doesn’t mean there is something wrong with me. I still have an opinion, I still have thoughts, I still have feelings. I am not mute.

If you couldn’t already tell I HATE being asked this question. Mostly because people make it seem as if being shy or quiet is terrible. Also, they ask me as if I have not even realized myself that I am quiet! It takes me a while to warm up to people, maybe longer than most but I have the capability to be loud, funny, and opinionated. It just takes a special type of person to bring that out in me.

2 thoughts on ““Why are you so shy and quiet?”… Shut up.

  1. jmlinde says:

    I hate this question too. It was worse when I was a child because I thought I should have an answer, but the best I could come up with was “I don’t know.” It made me feel like there was something wrong with me.
    I need people to stop asking children why they’re shy. I know from experience that these questions harm self-esteem.

    Thanks for sharing this. I’m glad to find someone else who shares my anguish.

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