I’ll Flourish With Or Without Your Help!


I depend way too much on others for my happiness and success. Hearing the sentence, “Good luck surviving without me!” during a break up is like a punch to the gut. I feel like if I was left on my own I would just crumble because I need the support from others. I like to think of myself as independent; when it comes down to it I lean others. This is partially from my anxiety, it gets exhausting dealing with it on my own.

So, what happens when these people leave my life? What if we get into a terrible fight and they walk out on me? I want to be positive that I will be able to get through it. I want to know that I can be successful and strong without the help of others. I can’t depend on others for my happiness, motivation, and security. Because let’s face it… people aren’t going to be there for you 24/7.

I don’t know if others feel this way. I’ve never heard any of my friends talk about this. Would you have trouble flourishing in life if your friend/significant other/family member disappeared from your life?

6 thoughts on “I’ll Flourish With Or Without Your Help!

  1. krazykoalatree says:

    Little story for you here my friend pranked me by telling me she was moving to America (I’m British) and I was super upset because I depended on her so much to help me be who I am so I was super upset. So no not everyone is independent enough to survive on their own and that’s why we have friends! How would cave men be able to hunt without a pack?

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  2. soinessence says:

    When a loved one has walked out of my life after an incredible relationship, I felt like the world was ending. When we were at our best, the greatest happiness I felt was when we were together. And when we broke up, I spent a couple of years wondering how I’d ever be that happy again. But the problem is we think it is other people making us happy, but I realised, after hitting an all time low, that I wasn’t unhappy because I relied on them to make me happy, but I was unhappy because I had fallen out of love with the person I was when I was with them. With them leaving, the me that I was, was no longer there. I think you have to realise that it’s not the people who make us happy, it’s that we are happy with the person we are when we’re with them. It’s down to our courage and strength to find different traits about us that make us happy without them. Apologies for the long comment, but great post! x

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    • amillennialsinsights says:

      Great comment! I hadn’t considered that angle before but it’s totally true. I think when a break up happens you kind of lose yourself, which totally makes sense why you would automatically think that you need this person in your life to be happy.

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  3. Shri says:

    This is a great article, and very true! It would be very difficult to move on, but once you move on you would find a new kind of you, one that is strong and brave. I’m not in any phase in life for this, but there is always the quote of all success starts from a failure. And first of all if its a breakup and they leave you that meant you weren’t meant to be anyways, and here those words after would hurt but you leran to move on and go towards postivity. its naturally for a human to lean on to someone for support but they should also be independent and bold too. Anyways this write-up really got me thinking and I guess i sort of rambled along haha sorry about that :D. Anyways really enjoy your posts ❤ 🙂 😀


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